Therapist Tip of the Week: Start With the Parent’s Priorities

When working with parents of neurodiverse children, it may be tempting to begin with the concerns we see as most important in therapy. However, parents may have a different priority.

One parent may be less concerned about improving a child’s social skills, and more concerned about getting through the morning without a major conflict. Another parent may be less focused on homework completion, and more concerned about bedtime routines. Starting with the parent’s priorities can help build trust and make therapy strategies more meaningful.

One Idea

Before making any suggestions, ask the parents what would make the biggest difference in their daily life right now. You may learn that the issue that seems most important to you isn't the issue the family is ready to address.

Try This This Week

At your next parent session, ask, “If we could make one part of your day easier this week, what would you choose?” Then work with the parent to identify one small, realistic goal. Sometimes the best starting point isn't the biggest clinical concern, but rather a small change that feels both meaningful and manageable for the family.